Do Parental Spankings Make Us Kinky?
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I know that a whipping my daddy gave me as a lad was one of the first erotic experiences of my life. And my first masochistic cravings were clearly an attempt to recapture it. (This doesn’t mean that parental discipline had the same effect on you.)
Here’s an opinion I couldn’t have anticipated:
Today’s “bad kids” may, if regularly and vigorously spanked, develop a heightened pain tolerance that will be helpful should they choose to enter an BDSM-related occupation. Some might claim that this is an argument against employing corporal punishment. In an Internet discussion, Christopher Dugan said, “I don’t think that people who like to erotically spank each other are evil. But I do think that there is something very wrong with a discipline technique which causes even a small minority of children subjected to it to develop a lifelong erotic obsession around the subject.”
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Dear Richard, Yes, I think parental spankings definitely make us kinky, that is why I refuse to spank my daughter. I do not want to make her kinky. She can choose to be kinky when she turns 18 or 21 if she wants, but not on my watch. Beauty
Posted by: Beauty | July 24, 2006 1:21 AM
Bear in mind that boomers in North America were possibly the first generation in history to be raised without corporal punishment in the home or school, cue in part to the influence of Dr. Spock’s books.
Subsequent generations likewise were raised without regular spankings, and yet this is when BDSM flourished.
Posted by: Peter Tupper | August 22, 2006 12:55 PM
Speaking as one of that generation: I got whippings. In a sense I’ve been chasing after one childhood whipping for many years.
And some of my peers but spankings. Even in Junior High paddling was still allowed and it was a heavy wooden one with holes in it.
Don’t you think the growth, increased visiblility of BDSM is more a reflection of the increasingly relaxed sexual mores?
Posted by: Richard | August 22, 2006 4:02 PM
I don’t really know… I think parental spankings can contribute to it. But there are lots of “kinky” people who were never spanked as children, so it’s definitely wrong to say that “parental spankings is what makes people kinky, period”. It is far from as simple as that. On the other hand is it a bad thing if people get kinky? I don’t think so, and I don’t know why it would be.
I am against spanking children. But I don’t think Chris Dugan knows very much about BDSM.
Posted by: blue^elf | April 5, 2007 8:31 PM