Going Under

This is the official synopsis:

Peter, a psychotherapist, and Suzanne, a professional dominatrix, have been meeting once a week for more than two years. In the privacy of a dungeon room in an S&M house, Suzanne delicately pierces, prods and ultimately soothes Peter as they engage in sensual dominance and submission reenactments. Peter’s wife Pat knows about her husband’s other life, but there is an understanding between them; what happens in the dungeon is relegated to the world of fantasy. Then, Peter and Suzanne, undeniably drawn to each other, agree to see each other on the outside. Though Suzanne is clearly ambivalent about any sort of physical intimacy, Peter becomes increasingly obsessed with consummating their relationship. The more Suzanne pulls away, the harder Peter finds it to let go. As they meet in coffee shops, bars and restaurants throughout New York City, Peter remembers the erotic “scenes” between them and the relationship these fantasies have to his past.

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