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A visit to the Correction Centre in Melbourne where CBT can be had for $140 (AUS) per thirty minutes:
“This dungeon is where we mainly do cock and ball torture,” explains Madam Mia. “It’s one of our most popular.”
Certainly makes me appreciate getting it free even more.
A young academic says:
“Statistics show about 10 per cent of the people who are into this had been abused in some way, which is the same as the normal population. Abuse is not the reason. It is more to do with how these people perceive pleasure.
Sadly one of the sex workers takes a different view:
But Madam Mia begs to differ. “Most of my customers could be categorised by the term paraphiliac (someone whose deviant tastes are determined by trauma),” she says. “They think of torture as beautiful, which could be summed up by the saying ‘forget the roses - send me the thorns.’”
Risk aware consensual torment can be quite lovely. And I don’t need psychiatric jargon to explain my kinks.
And:
One of Corboz’s more surprising findings was the power relationship between inflictor and inflictee. “Power is never fixed, the dominants don’t have absolute power. They have to make sure they take the experience as far as the submissive is prepared to go and no further. Most groups have what they call a safe word. Once it has been said by the submissive, all play must be stopped.”
The entire article: Pleasure and pain
Comments
Kind of off topic, but I hate so, so much when it’s completely ignored that tops can have safewords too.
Posted by: Eileen | August 14, 2007 6:01 PM
Madam Mia is absolutely correct, sexual sadism is a paraphila along with sexual masochism, they are categorised along with other paraphila such as frotterism, exhibitionism and voyeurism etc.
Paraphila is the clinical word for what used to be described as a ‘fetish’. The real meaning of the word fetish is someone who can ONLY be turned on in the presence of certain objects or processes. If they can be turned on when these objects or processes are absent, then they do not meet the clinical diagnosis of Paraphila (fetish)
This is important because the sadistic lifestyle has hijacked the word ‘fetish’ and uses it to describe anything that is out of the ordinary. This is why psychologist came up with the word ‘Paraphila’ such was the confusion caused by the wrong use of the word fetish. Someone who makes love in anything other than the missionary position would find themselves described as having a fetish such is the haphazard way that it is cast about in the lifestyle.
Now the people who use Madam Mia’s services are fully aware of what it is that they want, and would probably be happy to be described as having a fetish. The problem arises however when a husband who may get turned on by his wife in stockings would be classified as having a fetish such is the casual usage it has achieved in sadism. This would ensure that most of the men on the planet would be diagnosed with having a fetish. This is inherent nonsense, and is all part of the process that sadism has to make itself acceptable.
What sadism describes as a fetish, and what a clinical psychologist considers a fetish (paraphila) are two entirely different things, and I think Madam Mia is right to point out the difference, otherwise people who are manifestly not fetishists get diagnosed as such, not because they have a fetish, but because people are throwing the word around and using it in a completely different context to further their own agenda.
Posted by: Corneilius | August 21, 2007 7:12 AM