When BDSM Becomes Abuse
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I posted an earlier note about Berta Jean Webb whose relationship with her master went badly wrong. She’s posted details on Collar Chat:
I was asked once by him “If I’m abusive, why do you stay???” I told him “Because I love you Master”. And I did. Abuse, and refusing to take it anymore, doesn’t kill the love. I really wish it did. Now….on to just how “stupid” I was. I trusted this friend with my life. I gave 100%, denied him nothing…held nothing back. When he hated my talking on the computer, or even owning a computer, mine was given to my former foster son. When he pointed out that “property doesn’t own property”, I willingly signed my car title over to him.
Just an excerpt of BDSM evolving into abuse. One can only wonder how many other submissive persons have warped their hearts and accepted unfair beatings all in an attempt to please their dominant.
Berta Jean Webb tells her story
Comments
This woman was stupid. But it’s not a stupidity that is in anyway limited to the BDSM world. I knew a women who was in several very abusive relationships. I mean multiple trips to the hospital kind of abusive. Once I made the mistake of asking her about one particular relationship and why she stayed in it so long.
Her answer: Because I loved him. This made me want to slam my head repeatedley into a wall.
That said, once someone finally gets the brains to leave one of those relationships, its shear insanity for the law not to help them.
Posted by: Brian | September 28, 2006 5:40 AM
She was not stupid. She was abused. Only someone who has never suffered abuse in this most nauseating form could possibly call her stupid: first he gained her trust, then she gave him power to control her, and he used that power to hurt her as much as his monstrosity permitted and the control to keep doing it as long as possible. His monstrosity is strictly his fault, a reflection of a truly pathetic individual who needed to hurt someone in terrible ways in order to feel good about themselves.
Posted by: sw | August 20, 2008 9:00 AM